Make Your New Years Resolutions STICK!
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January 17, 2018
New Year Resolution
New Years Resolutions …
Many people set… but never keep New Year’s Resolutions. Most have good intentions. But after a day, a week, a month… they slide back to old habits thinking to themselves, “New Years Resolutions don’t work!” NOT TRUE!
I found New Years or the start of
any new period in our lives is a perfect time for new goals. The extra impetus of the ‘new’ time frame makes the goal special to us, creating a sense of urgency & purpose which is powerful in creating the discipline to achieve them.
The lack of success with New Year’s Resolutions is not inherent in New Years Resolutions themselves. The problem is people quitting on their goals
after making just one mistake and feeling like they FAILED. The real issue is an ‘all or nothing’ mentality.
Let me make my point this way: Have you ever set goals you did NOT achieve? Really? Me too. In the beginning I accomplished almost none of my goals. I got better over the years and now achieve close to 80% of my New Years Resolutions on time & on target. You can view me as a ‘20% failure’ or as someone who hits his mark 8 out of 10 times.
It’s like in marriage. You make vows and promise to love, honour, be true to your partner. I’ve never been to a wedding where they promised to be PERFECT. Then the married couple start having arguments about bills or annoying habits, wanting a dog VS a cat, etc. and 40% today say the marriage was a BIG MISTAKE and divorce! Sorry… no one has a ‘perfect’ marriage. You will argue, disagree and hopefully with love, give way to one another, mend hurts, say sorry (mean it) getting back to the business and HARD WORK of loving one another… and continue.
Likewise, you set a business, career or personal goal as a New Years Resolution and when you miss a target, deadline or commitment, DO NOT QUIT! Never quit on yourself or your goal! You are just getting
started. Use this 3 step approach to get back on target with your New Years Resolutions.
Look at WHY you slipped, missed your goal or broke your commitment. Was it being lazy, tired, the company you were keeping, reading the wrong material in the morning, wasting time on Facebook/WhatsApp/YouTube/email, not understanding upfront what was involved or something else. Once you understand WHY you missed your goal, you can start planning to avoid those problems for your next dedication to the goal. Don’t condemn yourself as a ‘failure’ because we ALL fail and that is just part of learning and growing. ‘Successful people’ just don’t remain in failure.
Make a plan for achieving your New Years Resolutions. Setting a goal to be a great singer in 2018 may be a great goal for you but if you don’t get a world class coach, spend hours everyday practicing after warm-ups, listen and study the best, you probably won’t be a great singer. If one of your New Years Resolutions last year was to save $10,000 from your salary and you are further in debt, you probably did not break the goal into daily, weekly and monthly steps. As my mentor Leo Hauser used to say, “By the yard it’s hard, by the inch it’s a cinch.” In metric terms it might be, “By the meter it’s a ‘beater,’ by the millimetre it’s sweeter”.
Recommit to your New Years Resolution and remember most goals and successes in life need your total commitment. You can’t be a gold medal swimmer like Joseph Schooling if you never jump into the pool and swim for half your lifetime. AND, if you are unwilling to commit to a News Years Resolution, you probably didn’t really want to achieve it; in which case, you never should have set it. Only make resolutions that are not just ‘nice’ to do but those you ARDENTLY DESIRE.
Even if you follow all 3 steps, there is no guarantee of success. That is just life. Not all are gifted with a voice the world wants to hear. Not all are destined to be billionaires. Remember I achieve 80% of my goals. 10% were beyond me at the time. Some, after working on them, I decided they were either not worth the investment of time or I found a new course of action that was a better use of my time.
Confucius said, “Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” Make your New Years Resolutions STICK in 2018!